Experiences….
July 15th, 2005 by cutieface-24In our life, we make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom we shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the
one we first kissed, the one we first loved, the one we’ll lost our
virginity to, the one we put on a pedestal, the one we’re with…and the
one that got away.Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that
person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing
was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the
chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime
partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually
argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with us being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have we gone through it without even
realizing it? When we’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it
doesn’t matter who we are with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become
big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because we’re not
ready and it shows. It’s not that we and the person we’re with are no good;
it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day we’re ready. We really are. And when this happens we’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect,
they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in
our life, but it’ll work because we’re ready. It’ll work because it’s
the right time and we’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.So that day comes when we’re finally making sense of things, and we find ourselfs to be a different person. Things are different, our approach is different, we then finally understand who we are and what we want, and we’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind we,there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully we’re single but we could be in a long-term relationship, we could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All we know is that we’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person
we think about.
We’ll think about them because we’ll wonder, What if they were here
today? We’ll wonder, What if we were together now, with me as I am and
not as I was? That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest What
if? we’ll have in our life.If we’re married,we’ll just have to accept the fact
that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how
fairy tale we think were marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But
hopefully we’re mature enough to realize that we’re already with
the one we’re with and this is just another test of our commitment, one which will just strengthen our marriage when you get past it.
Sure, we’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never
nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which
case it’s the same thing. we just have to accept and know that
memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to our
lips in the future when we’re old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different.
What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple…find him, find her.
Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that
you’ll always wonder, what if we got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if we’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. we’d be surprised, we just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is "the one that gotaway." we might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place
somehow and know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling,
in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away."
